It’s sad to admit, but there is a part of the families in which it is not accepted to have dinner together. And there are also those who combine food with watching television programs, which is the best way to stop any communication at the table. It is very important for the small world that your family has to create and maintain informal rituals. They unite, create luggage of pleasant memories, form rituals for future families of your children. And even for you, as for a couple, it is very important to fill simple actions with deep meaning.
All-night on Christmas Eve, March 8 at Grandmother, Sunday pancakes – this is what unites families. Most of us were brought up in an environment where rituals were considered very important. The old family traditions that you bring into your life, and the new customs created by you, will create a unique atmosphere and your home.
Petya was brought up in a very cohesive and large family along the father’s line. Since the father was a little boy, at all the weddings that happened in the Feldman family, the photographer was asked to spend a few extra minutes and to collect all the relatives who were about fifty people to capture them on a family photo. The groom and the bride – in the center, and around – all members of the father’s family, with their spouses and children.
Petya, being a child, watched what was happening with surprise and incomprehension, and considered pose for a photo a big joke. But when he fell in love, and then married Sofia, the family ritual acquired a new meaning for him. Suddenly, he himself became a groom sitting in the center, surrounded by his family. Now every time Peter looks at his wedding photograph, he is filled with a sense of pride and unity with his family, whose member now became Sofia. This feeling was strong with years, increasing every time when they and Sophia attended the wedding of the Feldman family and posed with the rest of the members of this large family clan.
Rituals do not necessarily have to come from childhood or be family traditions. You can create them yourself. New rituals can reflect what you do not have enough. If you miss the joint Sunday walks – start from this Sunday. If you want to pay more attention to the spiritual side of life, decide on a monthly joint communion.
Sometimes rituals that seem insignificant can take a special place in family life. For example, Nikolai and Lena always celebrate the birthday of their family by cooking a festive cake. This tradition began when their little son discovered an allergy to chicken eggs and they could no longer buy ready made confectionery. After a few years, the allergy has disappeared, but the tradition has remained, since it acquired a special significance for all. She gave a chance to gather together and celebrate the birth of a family in a very calm home atmosphere.