7 stages of marriage
atIt turns out th marriage consists of 7 stages. If the modern man knew about these seven stages – there would be no percentage of 80 divorces.
1st stage – love, romantic stage, sweet … ody when everyblikes; The defects of the partner are not visible at all, it seems that this is the very most! Almost saint – this period is practically all who fall in love.
Stage 2 – addictive – after some time you get used to the fact that next to you holy, there is no such excitement, admiration, everything is perceived as due.
Stage 3 – quarrels; he needs to return the former freshness, ease in the relationship. And, as a rule, most divorces happen when people come to this point-it turns out that this is not a holy one, but the scarecrow is most real, he pretends all the time; all the shortcomings are visible. They were earlier, simply because of the physiological state, we did not notice them hormonal. Now they are visible to us, but we have ceased to see good qualities. We see the sun, we do not see the moon. At this point, most divorces have occurred.
But there is a category of people who belong to wise people – they still somehow, for some unknown reasons, go over to
Stage 4 – And this is a huge step, a huge ascetic. This stage is called patience. Someone understands that there are children and need to tolerate, someone understands that with other partners may not be better …
Patience is a grandiose austerity !!! Due to this stage, the following occurs: after a certain amount of time (and this stage can last for years), pain, inconvenience, the person goes to the next level. All the experience gives a completely new feeling of confidence and an understanding that there is more than just pleasure, something more pleasant.
Level 5 – A person experiences sweetness from ministry. Moved to this level no longer builds a relationship from the point of view – what do I get from you? He gets pleasure by building relationships at a level – how can I serve you? When at this stage people begin to serve each other, enormous opportunities and real cooperation are opening up. The fifth stage goes into
Friendship – Stage 6
And only at the 7th stage is achieved what we dream of and why we are marrying. At the seventh stage comes LOVE. As a rule, it is given only through ministry and through friendship.
In ancient times people did not spend time in the first 4 stages, they immediately began to serve. That is, the mood was such that I came or married in order to serve. They passed the stage of friendship and then love. We have a lot of time going to romance, addiction, quarrels, patience … some do not go any further. And the wise men save their strength and immediately begin to serve with love; in such marriages there is no ground for quarrel, bothering, etc., because the concept of service itself implies disinterestedness.
And when there is disinterestedness, then there are no reasons for the quarrel …